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Friday, August 26, 2016

Spousal Communication during a Divorce

Couples who are going through a divorce face the issue of how to effectively communicate with each other. Attorneys at Southpark Family Law Charlotte North Carolina have seen often enough how helpful proper communication can be in a divorce. When children are involved, communication is necessary, although there are some unofficial guidelines you can follow while your divorce is pending.

The first thing you should know is that your words could be used against you when it comes to financial arrangements or child custody in your divorce. Your words also extend to social media, text messaging, and email as they are considered the same as the spoken word. That is why you should always be mindful of what you say to your spouse. If there is a danger of saying something that could come back to hurt you, desist communication outside of what is absolutely necessary.

Effective communication is important in cases when a parent is seeking joint custody. In these instances, it is always good to have positive communication in written form. This could be a helpful piece of evidence should your spouse suddenly decide to contest the issue of joint custody. Remember, having good communication in written form can be used just as effective as having negative communication in written form.

When communication is amicable, it is still not a good idea to reveal too much. Keep in mind that you and your spouse are adversaries when it comes to your divorce. Communicate only what is necessary and when in doubt speak to your Charlotte divorce lawyer.

Poor communication should always be avoided while a divorce is pending and it is important to remember that this could be a time you wind up seeing a bad side of your spouse. Keep the conversations businesslike and try not to take things personally. The marriage is dissolving and the best approach you can take is to get through the divorce as quickly as possible.

However, that does not mean you need to put up with harassment or intimidation. If that is the case, it is recommended to respond in a professionally manner by asking the other party to desist in written form. If the harassment continues, that communication request can be a valuable piece of evidence. And if you feel unsafe, consult your attorney who will then take appropriate measures. A court order could halt communications and use a third party for future interactions, thus eliminating direct communication altogether.

Southpark Family Law can provide you with a Charlotte North Carolina divorce attorney who will help you through every step of the process. One of our attorneys can also help you through your child custody or child support case as Southpark Family Law has a family law attorney standing by ready to help you.